Embracing growth: Outgrowing people, places, and situations
Thursday, October 31, 2024
Embracing growth: Outgrowing people, places, and situations
It’s perfectly natural to outgrow people, places, and situations as you journey through life.
How do you expect yourself to keep leveling up, if you cling to what no longer serves you? Growth often comes with a cost, and something inevitably has to give.
Have you noticed that during challenging times, you’re drawn—often without realising it—towards negative people and situations? Misery, loves company - especially in low-energy friendships, relationships, and jobs.
Perhaps you’ve already experienced that 'eureka' moment, or maybe you’re going through a dark night of the soul. This can feel like hitting rock bottom, often manifesting as a crisis in your life—like an ego death or a profound awakening.
Choosing to wake up means embracing discomfort and removing those rose-tinted glasses - even when it's painful.
Congratulations 👏 you've just taken the first step towards a more authentic life.
For me, 2020 was a huge eye-opener, not only was it during the pandemic but it was also during the George Floyd and Black Lives Matter movement. This sparked a deep rage within me, I don't know where it came from, I am usually quite a chilled, laid-back person but this felt different. This was a feeling that I couldn't ignore - a feeling that I had been suppressing for most of my life.
I could feel the anguish etched into my whole being; the same suffering my ancestors encountered.
I couldn't stay silent nor associate myself with anyone who did.
This felt so much bigger than differences in opinions with friends; it felt personal. This realisation made me confront the harsh reality of my friendships, distinguishing between those who uplifted and supported me and those who simply did not.
Walking away from long-term friendships is hard - especially as a chronic people-pleaser. However, it's not your responsibility to be a peacekeeper; prioritising your own needs must always come first.
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- Do I feel drained or energised after spending time with this person, in this place, or engaging in this situation?
-Am I compromising my boundaries or values to maintain this connection?
-Do I feel free to be my authentic self, or am I holding back parts of who I am to fit in?
Remember, as you grow and evolve, setting healthy boundaries and advocating for yourself gets easier. The load begins to feel lighter - you will never compromise on your values again.
Trust that anyone or anything you release along the way won’t feel like a loss, but rather a necessary step toward the life you’re meant to live.
Thank you for reading my latest blog post!
Stay tuned for more rambles and adventures
Love Leah x