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Embracing growth: Outgrowing people, places, and situations

Thursday, October 31, 2024


Embracing growth: Outgrowing people, places, and situations

It’s perfectly natural to outgrow people, places, and situations as you journey through life.

How do you expect yourself to keep leveling up, if you cling to what no longer serves you? Growth often comes with a cost, and something inevitably has to give.

Have you noticed that during challenging times, you’re drawn—often without realising it—towards negative people and situations? Misery, loves company - especially in low-energy friendships, relationships, and jobs. 

Perhaps you’ve already experienced that 'eureka' moment, or maybe you’re going through a dark night of the soul. This can feel like hitting rock bottom, often manifesting as a crisis in your life—like an ego death or a profound awakening.

Choosing to wake up means embracing discomfort and removing those rose-tinted glasses - even when it's painful. 

Congratulations 👏  you've just taken the first step towards a more authentic life. 

For me, 2020 was a huge eye-opener, not only was it during the pandemic but it was also during the George Floyd and Black Lives Matter movement. This sparked a deep rage within me, I don't know where it came from, I am usually quite a chilled, laid-back person but this felt different. This was a feeling that I couldn't ignore - a feeling that I had been suppressing for most of my life.

 I could feel the anguish etched into my whole being; the same suffering my ancestors encountered.

I couldn't stay silent nor associate myself with anyone who did. 

This felt so much bigger than differences in opinions with friends; it felt personal. This realisation made me confront the harsh reality of my friendships, distinguishing between those who uplifted and supported me and those who simply did not.

Walking away from long-term friendships is hard - especially as a chronic people-pleaser. However, it's not your responsibility to be a peacekeeper; prioritising your own needs must always come first.


It's good spiritual hygiene to re-assess every aspect of your life regularly and be sure to reflect on the following questions:

- Do I feel drained or energised after spending time with this person, in this place, or engaging in this situation?

 -Am I compromising my boundaries or values to maintain this connection?

-Do I feel free to be my authentic self, or am I holding back parts of who I am to fit in?

Remember, as you grow and evolve, setting healthy boundaries and advocating for yourself gets easier. The load begins to feel lighter - you will never compromise on your values again. 

 Trust that anyone or anything you release along the way won’t feel like a loss, but rather a necessary step toward the life you’re meant to live.

Thank you for reading my latest blog post!

Stay tuned for more rambles and adventures 

Love Leah x

A love letter to Porto ❤️

Monday, August 19, 2024

 


I was lucky enough to spend a week meandering through Porto's cobbled streets, and sampling the best fish in the city! I booked the surprise trip for my partner's birthday in August, and it was very much a highlight of my summer this year. 

I am so grateful for being able to travel frequently and experience different cultures and traditions 💫

In this blog post, I’ll share the highlights of our adventure, from breathtaking viewpoints to wandering through Porto’s charming alleyways and indulging in unforgettable meals by the Douro River.

Manteigaria - Pastel del Nata

It wouldn't be a trip to Porto, without an unhealthy amount of Pastel del natas being consumed. These little tarts have me in a chokehold. I fell in love when I first tried one in Lisbon last year, so when I knew I was returning to Porto this year - I knew I had to stock up!

Sure, you can pick up a pastry anywhere but the Manteigaria ones are a Portuguese staple. 

Consumed best with a black coffee!


Time Out Market Porto

You can't visit Porto without visiting the famous Time Out Market, here you will find a range of food vendors, ranging from authentic Portuguese food, fresh seafood, burgers, and pizzas.

We decided to go with a few sharing plates: the steak sandwich(tender and full of flavour) with potato chips, prawns in garlic & fresh herbs sauce, and grilled sardines—a true Portuguese classic.

Of course, we returned to the market! This time we had to try the famous smash burgers from Brusco—made with 60-day-aged beef, two perfectly crispy patties, cheese, onion, cucumber, ketchup, and mustard. So simple, yet unbelievably delicious. 

I’m fully behind the Time Out Market hype because it’s honestly fantastic. Whether you’re after a quick bite with friends or a more special date night, the market has so many options to match your vibe. 

It’s a place that’s got something for everyone, and I can already see why people keep coming back!



 Pizzeria Bella Mia

Ok, I know what you're thinking.. why go to Portugal and not order Portuguese food? Well, majority of Portuguese cuisine contains pork and I don't eat pork anymore. 

This recommendation came from my good pal Issie (shout to you!), conveniently located right next to our Air Bnb, this quaint little pizzeria made for the perfect date night. 

I won't lie to you, I love a white pizza (slightly controversial I know!) and Bella Mia didn't disappoint with their Woodland Truffle sourdough pizza, with mozzarella, spinach, mushrooms, and truffle oil. 

Bella Mia is a little gem with an outdoor seating area on a quiet street where you can sit back, sip on a glass of Portuguese vinho verde, and people-watch.

Bellissimo 💌

 Bolhao Market

One of my favorite things about being on holiday is visiting a food market. There's something special about soaking up the atmosphere and tasting fresh, local ingredients. 

Mercado do Bolhão, Porto’s oldest and most popular food market, is filled with local vendors selling everything from fresh seafood to cured meats, cheese, and homemade pastries. There's a real local buzz here, it's also very affordable and less commercialised than Time Out Market - so if that's more your thang.. come on down.

Holy Sandwich 

The holy grail of all sandwich places in Porto, the creme de la creme if you will.

We stumbled upon Holy Sandwich on our first night, and I couldn’t have imagined a better welcome to Porto’s food scene! 

Don't let the 80's American diner style put you off. There's a reason why Holy Sandwich is trending on Tiktok and the food is bloody delicious.

Don’t just take my word for it—if you’re in Porto, Holy Sandwich is a must-try! Whether you’re craving comfort food with a twist or just need a break from traditional Portuguese flavours, you won't be disappointed. 


Zenith

Okay, can we all just take a moment for this acai bowl? It was sensational and tbh, I am thinking about booking another flight to Porto just to devour it again.

There's just something so nice about fresh fruit on holiday, and why does it always taste so much better than in the UK? Riddle me that..

Zenith is definitely a bit of a social media hotspot, however, it did live up to its name, we stopped by for brunch to fill up before an exciting day of exploring the city. I would recommend arriving between 10-11am before it gets too busy as you might be waiting a little while for a table.


Dom Luis I Bridge

Is it even a trip to Porto if you don't visit the Dom Luis I Bridge

Arguably, one of the most iconic tourist attractions in Porto, and for good reason! The views from the bridge are breathtaking - head down there in the evening to catch the sunset. 

Built in the 19th century by one of Gustave Eiffel's students, this iconic bridge spans the Douro River, connecting Porto to Vila Nova de Gaia and providing fantastic panoramic views. 


 Duoro Valley Wine Tour

Now, you cannot visit Porto - the world-renowned home of Port without going on a wine tour. 

Admittedly, I am not the biggest fan of wine, but when in Rome.

We learnt all about the wine production process and sampled some of the best wines in the region, all whilst sailing down the Douro and taking in its spectacular beauty. 

We decided to book this tour via Get Your Guide and while the prices might seem steep, I think it's good value for everything included. 

The tour started at around 9am, meeting at the Living Tours agency, near Sao Bento station. We opted to pay extra for a slightly smaller tour, as we wanted it to feel more authentic - plus the added bonus of getting to know the people in our tour group.

The only thing that let the tour down a little bit, was the lunch! We were told that we would have lunch by 1:30pm and we didn't end up eating until 3:30pm, after being a few glasses of wine deep.. its safe to say that we were all very tipsy and the hanger took over!. We expected the lunch to be substantial, but the portion sizes were tiny - so definitely keep this in mind when booking this tour, to bring lots of snacks with you as it is a long day. 



Still not convinced? 

Well, I guess you will just have to check it out for yourself and see what all the fuss is about!

Thanks for reading my latest post! I hope it’s inspired a little wanderlust and maybe some cravings too.

Stay tuned for more rambles and adventures 

Love Leah x